Do you ever wonder why we use the phrase, "You can pick your friends, but you're stuck with your family?" Well, I am stuck right in the middle of my very own family crisis. It is my sister-in-law who is responsible for my following thoughts.
From the time I met my husband 18 years ago, his sister has lived with us more times than I can remember. She is currently living with us. I am having a difficult time understanding why she has not been able to survive on her own. She has been married three times, and when she wasn't married, she lived with her mother. Her mother passed away three years ago, and her husband was incarcerated a few years ago as well. She has three young children and two older children that live on their own. She has been requiring government assistance all during the years that I have known her.
My problem is this: I have my own family. I am married with five of my own children. I work full time and attend college. Life is difficult for all who live on a budget in this day and age. I just wonder if and when it will all end. I mean, how long do you allow your family to continue to come back, time and time again? When do you say, "Enough is enough...I cannot help you any longer?"
This is something I have been trying to understand over the last 6 months that she has been living with us. I am tired of raising her children for her, tired of financially supporting her and her children, and I am just completely disgusted with the fact that she seems to think that my husband and I owe her something. I just wonder if there will ever be a resolution to this life that she leads, and will I ever be able to say she is gone for good.
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